A paradigm shift!!!

Hmmm, long time since I blogged.. Well this is about women, thier life and the transformation they have gone through over the years....


India is a great country, no doubt about that. While we can boast about the past heritage , culture etc etc, we should also be ashamed of the injustice transpired on women in the past... Polygamous kings, the practice of Sati are a few examples of how we toyed with women in the past. That is hard to digest history now or atleast I hope it is.. Women , infact have gone through a radical change over the years... I'll first divide them into three generations that I have seen(Lets not dwell too much into the past) and look into how and what led to the transitions in their lives...

1) The 1980's
2) Early 90's to early 00's
3) Late 2000's

1) The 1980's -> probably the ideal bride generation.
Here in general, you come across a silent gal who takes a different form each day. The very obedient daughter-in-law, cook, home-maker, office-goer, again home maker, again cook and the day continues. Hardly you will see her complaining. Dev Kohli's lines sums it up though from a movie in the 1990's

Ban Gaya Pardes Ghar Janam Ka
Mili Hai Duniya Mujhe Nayee
Naam Jo Piya Se Maine Joda
Naye Rishton Se Bandh Gayee
Mere Sasur Ji Pita Hain
Pati Devta Hain
Devar Chhavi Krishna Ki



In most cases, she had to support the family financially as well and so lost precious time with her kids, she did not like it , but she had to do it.

2) Early 1990's to Early 2000's : The career oriented woman

Once she started working, she realised how competent she can be. In few unfortunate cases,At this point when she saw a man along with his family, who were no more intelligent or talented , trying to dominate her personal life, she resisted. That was the start. Her retaliation to the injustice done to her over the past few years was very constructive.She started to enter every possible field, to make the whole world be cognizant of her abilities. Just observing her growth, the entire women population of this generation grew in confidence and we today see how much women have grown from the 80's....

Though this was a golden period for the rise of woman, there were a few cases where she(referring to few women in this generation) lost track completely.She started resenting men. she had no time for any personal life. She was completely career oriented, scared to the core since she thought even a single failure could give her the loser tag by the ever so chauvinist men. She was not ready to commit herself to a relation and even if she did, she was so busy with her career that the relation never really had a meaning.. This was the era of nuclear families where both parents would be working and the kid , if at all there was one would be with a nanny. The kid hardly had grand parents around because none of his/her parents could handle them. Poor kid...
From the woman's perspective though, a man was-is-and will be a chauvinist by heart, he wanted only her fall so that he could establish the lost control over her again.

Little did she realize that Men(Maybe not all) were also going through a metamorphosis. He started acknowledging the new woman in this generation. He started respecting her, He started loving her. But to shake off the fact that he was a Man, which he carried for generations together was a difficult task... Finally he did and that was the birth of the next generation.

3) Late 2000's - and over : Our generation ....

Man in this generation is more accommodating... He is open minded and accedes to the fact that his woman needs a career. He shares everything with her, he is happy about her growth. She on the other hand, enjoys this new attention and the support which probably she did not expect.. The couple have now become great friends than the stereotype husband-wife.. They share their life together and try to make a conscious effort to understand each other perfectly. Sometimes the MAN in him wakes up for a brief moment , but she accepts the fact that the change he has gone through is not easy and supports him to the max extent possible. Maybe this emotional intimacy has brought a shift in her thoughts. She now puts her family above anything else. She tries to stitch a great family, maintains a good relation with her in-laws (who have also evolved with time and are no longer as domineering as they were). She even goes to the extent of sacrificing her career for her kid, her family and most importantly for the close friend she sees in her husband...

What a Paradigm shift indeed !!!!!

Well the wise minds say, Evolution is for the good. Is this particular one really for good(atleast from a woman's perspective)??? Will a man try to take unwarranted advantage of this new generation woman who willingly sacrifices her career for her family and go back to his despotic ways ?? Only time can answer this , But if you ask me, I would say , the probability is close to zero because he understands why she is making this sacrifice, He understands that her priorities have changed, not since he wanted it, but because she wanted it and the reason for that was, the love she has for him. He respects that and loves her even more, In the process would vow never to hurt her again....


PS : First try at a topic on human evolution.... I am sure few of you would've been offended. I am really sorry. Its just my views and I may be totally wrong... This is all from what I saw when I grew up, my mom, relatives, friends , colleagues etc etc.... There may still be women who do not fit into the categories I mentioned, but really is there something in this world that does not have an exception!!!!

PPS:Disclaimer : I am not saying , women not pursuing a career is the solution to all the problems... Never...